Age Difference a Problem

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Registered: 06-27-2007
Age Difference a Problem
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Wed, 06-27-2007 - 11:56pm
I am 15 and how do I assure my 18 year old boyfriend that it is okay for us to be together.


Edited 6/27/2007 11:58 pm ET by outoftheboxfall06
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:49am

Well, it depends on what his concerns are. Also, what exactly do you mean by "be together"?

Could you write a bit of a story for us please.

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Registered: 06-27-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:53am
Well we have been good, close friends for a month now and we both like each other, but he doesn't want to date me because he is 18 and I am 15. I mean I want to date him and start a relationship but I don't know how to assure him that I can be trusted with keeping what ever happens in our relationship between just us.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 2:03am

So, he's not your boyfriend yet.

>>but he doesn't want to date me because he is 18 and I am 15. I mean I want to date him and start a relationship but I don't know how to assure him that I can be trusted with keeping what ever happens in our relationship between just us<<

One of the things you'll learn as you get more dating experience: When a guy gives you a number of reasons as to why dating isn't a good idea - it means he doesn't want to date you. His reasons shouldn't be viewed as problems to be solved - they're simply the reasons why he doesn't want to do it. Or they may not even be the real reasons!

Let this one go. He only wants to be friends...at least for now.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 06-29-2007 - 2:44pm

Welcome to the board outoftheboxfall06,


He's right to have concerns. Even if you keep whatever happens between you, your parents might assume a whole lot and charge him later on down the line.

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Registered: 02-01-2007
Fri, 06-29-2007 - 5:05pm
You are 15. Maybe you should keep it as just friends for now. A month of beings friends is not very long. Being so young you really have to be careful. I would not want my teenager dating a guy who is 18. Even if int's only 3 years it is a big age difference between boys and thir hormones and young girls. Be careful and slow down. Also, what do you mean by being together. Just going out, no sex? If there is a sex aspect, they this might be a problem.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 06-29-2007 - 5:26pm

Your age difference could be illegal in your state and could get in trouble with the law. If you really like him, I doubt you want to see him in jail or worse.


Plus if he doesn't want to date you, than why pressure him. Find someone who WANTS to date you. Someon that you don't have to convince.

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