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| Tue, 09-28-2004 - 10:16am |
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months now. I am a friend of his sisters. In the beginning it was amazing, he wanted the relationship more than I did, and told me he was falling in love with me almost a week after we started dating. We spent every day together, never leaving each others sides. We even went on vacation together. When we came back he said he needed some space, so I gave it to him. 3 days later he called me and said he didn't want the space anymore. Shortly after he became depressed. I was his side the whole time, taking time off work. He never wanted to go out anywhere, and wasn't affectionate anymore. About 1 month ago, he went back to work, and started going out again. I have no problem with that, but we haven't spent 1 weekend together in the past month. Everytime I bring up the relationship and that he isn't making me a priority he gets angry. He's always yelling at me and making my cry. I haven't done anything to provoke him. Sometimes I can be a little overbearing, but I just don't feel secure in the relationship anymore. We hardly see each anymore, and when I tell him I feel like I'm losing him, he says I'm not and that he's not going anywhere. I told him recently that maybe I should give him some space and he said that wasn't what he wanted. He's constantly getting mad at me, and he just says that he's still dealing with the depression, and that it's not only me that he yells at, but I still feel that he doesn't even care about the relationship or me anymore.

Pianoguy thinks the 2 of you had TOO MUCH OF EACH OTHER TOO SOON!
While you might be a bit 'pushy' at times---the man you've been seeing has no intention of making you the 'priority' any longer. Depression is one thing. Using it as an excuse to avoid you doesn't seem very fair.
Give the man his space....and do the same for yourself. Within 30 days, the 2 of you will either be "reunited" or have gone your "separate ways"----. Best wishes and warm thoughts..
Pianoguy
What to Do When Someone You Love Is Depressed, Mitch Golant, Susan K. Golant
I Don't Want to Talk about It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, by Terrence Real
SOS Help with Emotion: Managing Anxiety, Anger and Depression by Dr. Lynn Clark.
Carrie