My husband would never do anything to intentionally hurt me but this whole situation has been driving me crazy.
Last week I had looked at his iphone to find out our friend's number because I somehow had the wrong number. Also we are pretty open about our iphones and ipads, we both tend to pick up whoevers phone without much of a thought to anything because neither of us would have anything that I would find uncomfortable. . Anyway, in the process of this, I discovered there is a woman from work that has been texting him. Who I then found out was one of his interns who is a senior at a local university which makes this seem more inappropriate to me than anything. But tell me if this stuff seems a little weird--Most of the stuff is about lunch, she sends him pictures of food. But then there was stuff like there are goodies-and he answers where? and she says In my tummy!. Then another one of her saying you know how i like lunch? well my BODY doesn't like lunch when I go for a swim at lunch. He answers sorry to hear you are not feeling well. But most of it is innocent but flirty. Except he sent her postcards from his work trips because she sent him a picture of her postcard wall at work. Then the most recent on her last day, he took their department out for lunch. But he asks her if she needs cab money to get to the airport which is typical of him. But then he says "miss you already, have a safe trip!" The miss you already thing made me upset because he travels for work and I never get a miss you already.
He doesn't have her saved in his contacts its just the number which I find shady like he knew it was wrong or why wouldn't he save her number. I however work where I can run phone numbers to find the names which I did and then just googled her and found her twitter, linkedin and blog. But am I being crazy? What I had thought was I would wait to see if she sends him any more and then say something. But then last night we were sitting and watching TV only for his phone to vibrate and there were 2 messages from her. I confronted him about it just asking what was going on. He said nothing. It's just friendly. However I then asked about the postcards to which he said no he didn't send her cards, well there was the picture and the text evidence on his phone.
I get yeah he talks to women at work and sometimes they do text him but its usually not flirty and most of them are married. This one however since she's his intern and he's her boss i just feel weird about. I mean she's 15 years his junior and still in college. Didn't he think it's inappropriate to be texting a girl? Or even think his wife would be bothered? I told friends and they are like talk to him about it, but i tried and he's like there isn't anything going on I don't get the big deal. Well the big deal is it needs to stop and I don't know if it will.
I feel bad because lately I haven't been the best wife. HIs parents came for a 2 day visit and ended up staying 3 weeks mostly because his dad had a minor thing he needed to have done at the doctor. But it was just a lot for me to do plus before that we had his sister's wedding and somehow we got stuck hosting parties before and after it. I did complain a lot and he says I"m always yelling at him. Usually I'm trying to talk but he's just not listening.
I just don't know what to do. If I keep talking about it or if I let it go and see what happens. Half of me thought to contact the girl and be like I think it's inappropriate but then the other half thinks its his to stop not mine.