am i being paranoid

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Registered: 10-11-2007
am i being paranoid
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Thu, 10-11-2007 - 2:56pm
My husband was deployed to germany for 16 months and has been home for 4months. I cant help feeling that e did things out there that he is not telling me and that he is talking to people he doesnt want me to know about. I just feel like he is being very shady and secretive. I have tried to tell him him i feel this way but he gets mad at me for thinking that. He never tries to prove his innocence and i have caught him in lies and he still denies everything. Is it just that I ca't get over not being able to know what he really know what he did out there. Am I paranoid.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 3:13pm

Welcome to the board rosiegirl524,


Since your husband was away for 16 months, it will be hard for the two of you to get back in the groove of this. Plus he was in the war and not having experenced that you don't know what he went through while he was there and how that changed him.


What did he lie to you about?

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Thu, 10-11-2007 - 3:24pm
I asked him who he was texting on his phone and he told me he was texting one of the sargents that he met in germany and that they were talking about a specific incident that had happened with a military police officer that left his car in drive will he got out and
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 10-11-2007 - 3:36pm

Welcome to the board rosiegirl524,


What things has he lied about?


You might want to suggest marriage counseling.

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Thu, 10-11-2007 - 3:36pm
Yea, I doubt that happened twice. I hate to say it, but if you feel really strongly about this you will have to get some solid proof before he is going to admit to anything.
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Thu, 10-11-2007 - 3:59pm
We have talked about tat because when he got back we fought alot but then when it came down to it he didn't want to. He said that he didn't want an outsider to tell us how to fix our problems
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Thu, 10-11-2007 - 4:01pm
I dont know how i would get the proof. Ive tried to look up some cell numbers but i cant find the name. I also feel so wierd snooping on him but i cant help myself.but also there hasnt been much since. almost like he knows im looking


Edited 10/11/2007 4:03 pm ET by rosiegirl524
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Thu, 10-11-2007 - 4:15pm
I am sorry. I don't really have any other good advice. You may just have to try and relax and keep your eyes open. But I know that isn't easy.
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Thu, 10-11-2007 - 4:36pm

Ok, he won't go, then go yourself.