Am I crazy or just not understanding it

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Am I crazy or just not understanding it
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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 7:11pm


I dated this girl around a year ago. We broke up and since then I have tried to get her back. I used to call her up a lot till last December trying to get in touch with her. I wrote her a song which got released and recently wrote a book which I dedicated to her which got published online today. It has not broken her resistance though and I feel I myself have not been right by calling her up when she does not respond etc. I tried to call her cuz she suddenly out of the blue broke all ties with me which was ridiculous for me to understand. She even called me a psycho, Now having heard all this, Do you guys feel I am one if so I am willing to take suggestions for changing. I am letting her go but I want to change the image I created for myself because of this. Needed honest advice on this topic.

Also I won't deny the fact that I loved her the most in my life. I really feel and felt she was the one for me. I do see her everyday in class etc and I do keep the hope that we can atleast be friends again.

I would love to hear your honest reply.

Regards,
Predation2000

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 10:23pm

Welcome to the board predation2000,


From what you describe, you don't sound psycho, but you

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Tue, 04-08-2008 - 11:31pm
She doesnt want to date you anymore.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-09-2008 - 12:15am
She called you psycho because you won't leave her alone. It's been a year!
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Wed, 04-09-2008 - 4:42am

i agree with other posters. why did you both break-up? maybe that issue is not resolved from her perspective and you could be concluding that dedicating things to her will overcome that. like i read here on the board," ignoring the facts doesnt change the facts" , to this i would add that without resolving the issue and ignoring it while doing other things doesnt resolve the issue.maybe she is still there with the issue?? JMHO.

i would, like other posters said, ask you to respect her decision on leave her alone but would point out another thing.if someone you love says ' all over ' you just cant say ok , fine, done( break-up because of fight etc.not included!).if you dont look back even once to ask ' how are you' or ' hi' or dont do anything to stop them it means you never really felt anything? so easy to let go? i personally dont believe in let go off the one you love when you know it can be undone with a bit of trial and error.

unlike others, i would ask you to talk to her once before accepting her decision on complete closure.Could be that she broke all ties just to make you talk about something which is important to her but you have missed ( i know it is game playing ) but i always believe, everything is fair in love and war!

even if after this last trial she says no, then you have to accept.

JM2C!

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 04-09-2008 - 7:16am

I disagree with itwinflame. You do sound psycho. You can't leave her alone even after she's told you and shown you in no uncertain terms that she wants nothing to do with you anymore, and then you went and wrote a song and a book dedicated to her. Just because you love someone doesn't give you permission to force yourself into their life. If SHE doesn't return your feelings, it's not right to continue to do this to her.

You can't undo a reputation you have built for yourself. All you can do is move on, and don't carry this girl around in your head.

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Wed, 04-09-2008 - 1:07pm

To the questions that were asked. We broke up because she told me she still liked her ex. She went to New York in the December break and met with her Ex. She ended up meeting him a lot more time than she told me. I could not trust her and did a mistake. Usually we had each other's mail id but I for the first time checked it. I felt bad about that and told it to her though but I knew I did wrong and could not forgive myself for it.

Sometimes when you really care or like a person, you don't care for anything and nor did I. I did not care for the world but my thoughts were for her. I was hopeful that she would be back.

About writing a book or the song, I did not consider it as a torture but as a way for tributing my love for that lady. Writing a book and getting it published is a long and difficult process and I was able to get it done. I wanted to see how she really meant to me and that is how it mattered. I really do love her and there is nothing more I can say to that.But one year down the line, I do care for her a lot and I hope that we could be friends.

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Wed, 04-09-2008 - 3:55pm

Of course we do not know what went on in your relationship, and what led to her calling you a psycho? That's quite a strong statement. It also seems as if she's just not interseted in continuing the relationship at the present time. In

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 04-09-2008 - 10:23pm
I have a few stories about real psychos....