Am I doing the right thing???

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-28-2003
Am I doing the right thing???
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Mon, 09-17-2007 - 3:10pm

I really need some help.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2007
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 4:22pm

Hi! I can totally understand some of your uneasy feelings about this situation. Here is my personal take on it: it would actually make me feel better that they had slept together once. I know that sounds kind of weird , but hear me out. Based on that one time they were intimate they decided that there was no romantic spark between them. That is better than them thinking and wishing that they could be together romantically. They have been there and done that, and apparantly something must not have felt right about it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 5:31pm

Welcome to the board butterflynik,


I can kinda see what the previous poster was trying to say.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 7:04pm

Welcome to the board butterflynik,


I can understand how and why you feel the way you do.... if he had slept with her years ago and remained friends that would be one thing, but he slept with her during between you two getting together again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-28-2003
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 9:02am

Thank you for your replies.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 11:25am
He's STILL physically attracted to her and wants to keep her as a friend.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 12:16pm
Seeing that he is physically attracted to her makes a big difference. Plus the fact he says he is all she has. He won't end his friendship with her and you are very uncomfortable with this (and you deserve to be). I think it is time to rethink the relationship, or else learn to be okay with their friendship.
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