Am I a fool for wanting to wait?
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|Sun, 01-27-2013 - 8:07pm|
My boyfriend and I were having a discussion over the weekend. He says I'm the third most important person in his life after his 2 kids. He said he trusts me, respects me, loves me, but is not "in love" with me. He said because of what his ex-wife has done and is continuing to do 5 years later, he is afraid to let someone into his heart. He does not know if he could ever be in love with anyone again. She cheated on him and then left him after being together nearly 20 years. He asked me to stay together with him and asked me if I would wait. His kids will both be off to college within 2 years. He said once they leave, he will have more time to focus on our relationship, and hopes his ex will leave him alone, but needs to focus on his kids right now. We have been together for 2 years now. We still talk on the phone several times a day, we text, we see each other usually one night a week and on the weekends. Him and my son get along great. He would do anything for me. He has gotten me through some hardships as well. I like what we have, but when he said he wasn't "in love" with me, it really hurt. I told him so and he felt really bad for hurting me. He said he doesn't want to let me go, but he needs time to heal from the hurt of his divorce.
So, I want to stay with him, but I can't stop thinking about him telling me he is not in love with me. I do love him and I told him so. I'm so confused right now. I don't know what to do.