Am I Good Enough

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Registered: 09-02-2006
Am I Good Enough
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Fri, 10-17-2008 - 9:17am

I have been dating someone for approx two months - I am enamored with this guy - but I am also very hesitant in pursuing a deeper relationship because I feel a bit inadequate.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 9:29am

If you're talking about ending the relationship after two months, you probably should just end it. Relations don't last because two people are enamored with one another, they last because two people are good for one another. Starting out on the wrong foot will set a bad foundation for a relationship later, and that will be very tough to break away from.

If your issues are so severe that it's tough to hold such a short relationship together then I really hope you are seeing a professional. I'm not going to ask what your issues are (I have some of my own, we all do) but I truly truly hope you are able to control them before they sabotage things for you. I really wish you the best of luck.

Read the book: Are You The One For Me? by Barbara DeAngelis

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 10:56am

Have you ever seen a counselor about these 'issues'? They will probably follow you no matter who you date.


Just don't get having little in common confused with 'not good enough'.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 11:16am

Welcome to the board elizabethsuzie,


Your thoughts and feelings about being not good enough are directly tied to your belief system.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Fri, 10-17-2008 - 6:24pm

What I see in your post is a question - are you living life due to your label or are you just that way?

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Registered: 10-31-2006
Sun, 10-19-2008 - 8:47pm
Remember the saying opposites attract. I think sometimes being opposites balance one another out. My husband if the very outgoing lived the "crazy life" whereas he met me the quiet, shy, straight edge person. I would have a hard time being with someone as shy as I am and I think he would have it hard to be with someone who is as outgoing as he is. Hope things work out for you.