am i insane?
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am i insane?
| Sun, 04-18-2004 - 4:29pm |
i have heard it said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Is that what I am doing? I have been married for 23 years and it has been a rocky road. my spouse is a recovering addict, ( sober for almost 6mos) I thought maybe this was going to be the solution that would get us back on track. We have been seperated before, gone thru counseling twice, and I thought I saw the light at the end of the tunnel. Back together for 3 months. Just two weeks ago I found he was having an affair. He says he is sorry, wants to still try, he can give her up, even though he says he cares for her. My two teenage kids are threatening to stop visiting, associating me if I am dumb enough to take him back. I feel that I am alone no matter what direction I take. Is there a right answer to this? Will my kids eventually come back around?

I can't answer your question - only you can. Will salvaging this relationship bring you joy and inner peace or is it just becuase you feel you are supposed to or because you've always done it? Do you truly love him, inspite of his infidelities and addictions or because of them? If you always feel alone with him, would you feel less alone by yourself? Search your heart - your answers are there.
Ask God for direction - He is the only one who knows what is right for you. Do what is right for your long term happiness and peace of mind - regardless of what others think you should do. If you feel you are sacrificing your soul in order to stay or leave, then you should do the opposite. If you are sacrificing your soul to stay, then you should leave and vice versa.
No one can tell you what is right for you - that is between yo uand God.
Best wishes to you.
Toni