Am I just comfortable for him?
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Am I just comfortable for him?
| Sat, 11-03-2007 - 3:34pm |
I've been dating with my b/f for a year and half. He had a long time g/f who he broke up with a few months before we started to date. After they broke up, still they meet up a couple times before we started to go out.
After we started to date, He's lied about me to her to not to hurt her, and he's lied about her to me to not to hurt her. I found out and was really hurt. He said he just didn't want to hurt anyone.
After we started to date, He's lied about me to her to not to hurt her, and he's lied about her to me to not to hurt her. I found out and was really hurt. He said he just didn't want to hurt anyone.
Since then, I became really insecure and get really upset whenever he talks to her. He still has his ex's photo and cards/clothing that she gave him. He thinks it's so brutal to get rid of those gifts/photos

'He won't talk about me to her or about her to me'
So he is dating both of you. If they were just friends then why would he have to lie about you?
You aren't happy. He isn't fully in this relationship. Maybe it is time to find someone who isn't on the rebound and can give emotionally to you.
I'm sorry, this guy's heart doesn't belong to you. He's carrying a torch for her; his idea of honesty revolves around making her feel good.
I think you deserve someone who doesn't keep his ex-girlfriend's pictures and clothing around a year and a half into a "new" relationship. He obviously still feels very close to her but will stomp on your feelings in order to keep her from you. Think about why he doesn't want you to see any of his Email or get to know her. It's because he's not finished dating her or telling her that he cares for her, and he knows you'll be upset to know that he speaks to her as a girlfriend. I understand having privacy but to consciously hide things from you is not privacy.
You know what's going on. Trust your instincts. I've seen this so many times before and it doesn't end well.
I agree with most of what has been written so far, but I strongly disagree that his keeping of momentos and clothing is unreasonable.
Naturally, you would expect photos to be in boxes, computer files
Thank you for writing.
I saw your point. I just cannot be comfortable with him having all stuff of her. It gives me an impression of him dragging his past. Everyone has a diffferent opinion. I just feel in that way.
But again, I appreciate your posting :-)
Welcome to the board yokotakano,
Her feelings matter to him more than yours do.
Thank you for writing.
I actually have met her before.