Am I just Crazy?

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Registered: 06-27-2007
Am I just Crazy?
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Sat, 06-30-2007 - 10:40pm
About a year and a half ago I found my fiance writing emails to her exboyfriend. I conftronted her and she said he was just a friend, later I found her emailing the same guy and asked her to stop if she cared about me. Just recently I checked her internet history and saw that she had looked at her exboyfriends myspace page. Should i be worried? She thinks i'm crazy, and being jealous. what should i do?
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Registered: 06-27-2007
Sat, 06-30-2007 - 10:47pm
We have also been married now for a year
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Registered: 06-26-2007
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 12:19am
About a year and a half ago I found my fiance writing emails to her exboyfriend. I conftronted her and she said he was just a friend, later I found her emailing the same guy and asked her to stop if she cared about me. Just recently I checked her internet history and saw that she had looked at her exboyfriends myspace page. Should i be worried? She thinks i'm crazy, and being jealous. what should i do?



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Sun, 07-01-2007 - 4:32am
Whether or not she's right in thinking your crazy and jealous kind of depends on the exact nature of the emails. Were the emails completely neutral and platonic, or were they steamy emails expressing that she missed him? Simple communication with an ex who is still a friend shouldn't be a concern to you unless lines are actually being crossed.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 5:27am

I totally agree.

Christybisping, if they are emails discussing work, life and stuff in general, then yes, you are being crazy and jealous.

However, if they are flirty then you've got a good reason to be concerned.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 4:15pm

Welcome to the board christybisping,


For a married woman, she's rather interested in this guy - ex or not. She would ok with you doing the same sort of thing?


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Registered: 06-21-2007
Mon, 07-02-2007 - 4:18pm

I think you need to trust her. If there is no trust in the relationship, then there is no happiness. You should not be checking her e-mail or who she visits on her MySpace page. You should TRUST her enough to not have to. If you suspect cheating, confront her about it.

If you haven't gotten to the point that you can believe every word she says, you need to postpone the marriage until you can.

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