Am I Lying to Myself??

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Registered: 05-17-2007
Am I Lying to Myself??
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Sat, 02-09-2008 - 8:27pm

I started chatting with a guy online a few months back.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 02-19-2008 - 1:43pm
The cocaine of romance. You like it. You are addicted maybe.
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Registered: 01-10-2006
Tue, 02-19-2008 - 6:31pm
I have actually been on either side of this situation before- I've been 'other girl' and had 'other girls' with my current boyfriend.
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Registered: 03-21-2007
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 1:20am

Hello,


I hate to tell ya this, but the only thing that you can do is confess what happened to your boyfriend and hope that he can forgive you. He may not wish to continue dating you now that this has happened with the other guy, so you have to be ready for that. And at the very least own up to what you have done. I know its hard and it will hurt. But time to just be brave and get it out there. After you have said your piece, up to your bf if he wants to take you back or not. If he doesn't take you back, then you shouldn't run to the other guy. Because if you do that, then he will likely be feeling bad too about taking you from another guy like that. So I suggest you give it some time, tell the other guy what has happened, but tell him that you need some time to think and sort things through. Depending on rather you want to be with him or not after what has happened. Once you figure out what is right for you then commit to it and don't look back. That is the only advice I can give you on this subject.

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Cursed_Romantic

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Registered: 02-20-2008
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 2:24pm

There is no way you can maintain this friendship and your relationship.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 5:29pm

The real question here is why did you start this flirtation at all? Is something missing in your basic relationship? Usually when two people are happy, there is not the need to reach out to someone else? It seems as if you are exploring another relationship because you may have needs that are not being fulfilled.


It's important to be clear and complete with one relationship before starting the next. See what's really going on in your present relationship. Talk about the relationship with your boyfriend and see if you're both happy and if it's going in the direction you want. You don't have to tell him about this other guy, but you do have to be honest with yourself about what you truly want in life and if you're getting it where you are.


Best wishes

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Registered: 12-27-2007
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 10:01pm
I think the real question is, What are you missing in your current relationship that this "new friend" offers you? You say it has been five years you've been with the other guy. Why don't you live together? Why haven't you taken that next step with him? Maybe he's just not the one? I spent 5 years with a guy once, too. It's hard to end it, but if it's not meant to be, nothing will make it work. Maybe this new friend is just the start of you being interested in someone other than your current man?

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