Am I nuts or WHAT?!!!

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Registered: 10-22-2004
Am I nuts or WHAT?!!!
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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 11:58am

I have met the greatest man in the world. He is open minded and an open communicator. He has the same values that I have. He is a gentleman and I love him so much. I enjoy spending time with him. He completes me in so many ways. He encourages me and supports me no matter what endeavers I take on. He is the one that I talk too before I make a major decision. He is my rock and he have even told his mother that he wants to marry me. But He is not as ambitious as I am,(He is content working for a good company...while I dream of building a high power corporation) but that is not the reason why I wrote this post. I have a serious problem...

Every time we come close to having sex...I JUST CAN'T DO IT!!! I am 25 and he is 31 years old. Please believe this is really putting a strain on our relationship. After 7 months We have NEVER had sex. He is not an unattractive man. He dresses nice, he smells good and I love when he touches me(except for in a sexual way). I try sooooo hard to give in but for some strange reason I get uncomfortable and I want to run away. I don't even want him to kiss me when He does I just want push his face away from mine.

I just don't understand. I love sex and I love intimacy. I have dated guys that were scum and I was so hot your could fry eggs on my crouch:) so why am I so cold to the man that I love and could possibly be my husband one day. I really need some help. Because this issue could destroy our relationship.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 2:54pm

Hi joyjones and welcome to the board,


Well, I'm not sure what your block is or what you are afraid of, but you do need to get to the bottom of it and probably rather quickly.


I hope someone else has some good advice for you.




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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 3:07pm

Welcome to the board joyjones_82,


I would recommend seeing a therapist to help you get to the bottom of this issue. Maybe you are afraid of getting pregnant or ruining the relationship. I don't really know. I hope you can get this figured out though.

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