Am I Over-Reacting???

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Registered: 08-17-2004
Am I Over-Reacting???
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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 6:02pm
My boyfriend and I went out the other night and we ran into a girl friend of mine. Shortly after meeting her he turned to me and said "She's as cute as hell!" Out of the blue, it wasn't in response to any questioning. For some reason this really hurt my feelings. I would like know if my feelings are product of low self-esteem (being insecure) and I should have been okay with him telling me this....or is he just being a jerk.

Help!!

P.S. There have been other instances similar to this one and it really annoys me and hurts my feelings.

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Registered: 06-05-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 6:35pm
Hi Sunbeam,

Personally, I do not think you are overreacting. I think it's kind of hurful for your boyfriend to tell you anyone is cute, pretty, etc. other than you, unless you ask for his opinion. If he has done this before and you don't like it you need to tell him. I don't consider myself insecure but I know that my feelings would get hurt if my boyfriend (if I had one right now...SMILE) did that simply because that's not something you would tell your girlfriend; it's a form of disrespect. I would at least ask him how he would like it if you did the same thing. If he claims he wouldn't care, then do it. The next time you meet up with one of his friends, comment on his looks or eyes or personality or whatever.. and I would start of with Wow!, he's ...... see how he likes it. Just my $.02. Take care. Lucy

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Registered: 08-17-2004
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 1:05pm
Hi Lucy!

Thanks for the advice. I'm definitely going to talk to him about it.

Sunbeam