Am I overreacting?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Am I overreacting?
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Mon, 04-21-2008 - 3:26pm

Hi,


I need unbiased advice about what my relationship!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 11:57am
Spice.Man I realize that you feel as though you need to wave a banner for all the men in the world, but would you - for once - actually read through the rest of the posts rather than reading half of the first post and copy/pasting your formulaic "secret expectations" response? You pick out one detail from every post that suits you and then write a paragraph to harp on it. There is more to her situation than her suspicion that he may cheat on her. You might want to read it in order to give a response that is helpful to HER rather than your ego.
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Registered: 08-15-2007
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 12:25pm

if this was just an isolated incident, i'd say don't worry about and let go have fun one last time before the baby comes, however from everything you stated in your post, bike week is just one of many things, and he is going to do what he wants to do when it comes to any issue in your relationship and i think i would seriously consider re-evaluating your options when it comes to raising a baby

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 12:34pm
I've made him "guilty" because he's proven to me over and over again that he has no problem looking me in the eye and lying to me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 1:09pm

YES - he needs to step up and show that he is responsible and accountable for his actions.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 2:33pm

What fictional stories is it that you are referring to?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 5:26pm

Your feelings are understandable. No one wants to think of their fiancee partying with half naked women. Also, the fact that he is disregarding your feelings is not good. However, before you just "leave" him while he's gone, stop a moment and realize that you are having a child together. It's very important to have support of all kinds during this period. Rather than just leaving, perhaps you can make a plan to go to see a couple's counsellor with him? Would he be open to that? He needs to learn tools of relationship building, how to listen, be considerate, and understand a way to fulfill both his needs and yours. Do your best to get him to understand how important it will be to all three of you for him to join you for some counselling and relattionship education.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 5:33pm

While all people are capable of doing horrible things to us, the person who you choose to be in a loving relationship with should encourage you to have some greater faith in him.


He doesnt sound like he is ready or willing to become mature enough for your liking.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 9:43pm
I want to thank everyone who has wrote me back and tried to give me advice.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 10:28pm
Drugs is a dealbreaker for most people.
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Tue, 04-22-2008 - 11:12pm

Even if drugs, drinking, and women were not in the picture, it is NOT acceptable for a man who is about to be a father and NOT WORKING take what little family funds there are and blow them on a bike week vacation.