Am I overreacting part 2

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Registered: 07-09-2010
Am I overreacting part 2
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Sat, 02-09-2013 - 10:54am

<p>To add to myother post. I am frustrated with this relationship. My bf lives with me Monday thru Friday. We spend the weekends at his lake house. I pay all the bills for my house. He buys groceries but I do too. He pays his bills. Somehow I feel like he should contribute more. He makes more than twice as much as me and much better off. He claims both houses are ours. But technically their not. Shouldn't he be contributing more towards my place? &nbsp;I am really struggling to make ends meet as I have a son in college. Opinions would be appreciated</p><p>Best</p><p>Nancy</p>

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Registered: 01-21-2011
Mon, 02-11-2013 - 11:04pm

i'm so sorry things r not going well... i know with my bf and i we have been together for over 25 years...we have had some tough times, done plenty of break ups, but through it all i stayed cause i will never find my true love like him..he's my last guy in my life..he is now 76 and i'm 61. ppl would say we need to stay apart ect. ect.  i'm glad i didn't listen to any of them, cause relationships can be very difficult to manage... please know i hope you can find the answers for you dear....i wish u many blessings and a (( hug ))

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Thu, 02-14-2013 - 12:06am

Hi Nancy,

Taking your other post/question into consideration in my answer, I'd have to agree with someone else, who posted this may not be the relationship for you. Two day's power and wear on a home (his) are not near the same cost as 5 days a week (your home). this man knows this, as you do.

It seems to me that he is doing as he pleases (leaving early for the weekend), and taking the best you have to offer. ask yourself if a FRIEND would do this to you? I doubt it,right? It would be more fair and equitable. So, Why be with a man who isnt treating you like a Friend; as well as Loving you?

I have found, through marriage and dating, that all this love and sex stuff is great, but if the basis of a relationship is Not friendship, then it isnt the right union.

The more time you spend with the Wrong person, is time you Waste with the Right one!

You won't know how much these things Do bother you,nor how wrong they were, til you move on--hindsight clears your vision.

I'd sit down and have a talk about these things. Including his skipping the entire weekend you all had planned (the Friday). My guess is he will think you are being "sensitive" or "over reacting"..you are not "anything", you are just expressing your Feelings, and they should be respected. If they are not, it's time to move on.

You deserve the Best!

cc,

Pepper

Pepperjack7

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Registered: 01-21-2011
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 4:02pm

If you're not married, I'd keep it clean. You have your house, he has his house. You pay for your utilities and he pays for his. I'd even buy my own groceries and let him buy his. If you want a joint investment, get married, but the guy doesn't sound like he's really worth it to me. 

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