Am I reading too much into this?

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Registered: 01-27-2004
Am I reading too much into this?
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 6:41pm
Do you believe in destiny/fate or do you believe we define our own destiny? This guy I have met the same time last year has crossed paths with me before and I am just realizing this. We both attended a small art competition 5 years ago. Both of our firms were competing for the same job (we are in the same field). We did not notice each other. Two years later I spoke to him on the phone once (I am just realizing he was the person I spoke to because he has an unusal name and I remember feeling good about the conversation we had). He called about some recommendation concerning someone his office was going to hire. Then another 2 years later, I meet him at a mutual friend's birthday party. I felt we hit it off but nothing happened because I got dragged away before we could properly end our conversation. I believe he thought I blew him off. Then a month later we see each other at this charity function and we noticed each other but had no contact. Later on that same night we bump into each other at a restaurant for a late night snack. We just looked at each other and nothing happened. Finally, I asked our mutual friend to see if he was available and would be interested in getting to know each other. This guy contacts me and we meet and we hit it off. But there have been many bumps in getting to know each other. We are both extremely busy people so we hardly see each other. I'm getting mixed signals from him and myself as to whether or not we even connect or if we are a match. I feel we connect on a professional level but not really on a personal level. I'm just unsure of our situation. I believe we are both a bit apprehensive about moving into a relationship with one another and I think we miscommunicate at many times because we're both a little shy. I feel that it is fate that has brought us together? My other question is, is there anyway to get pass the bumps or is there just no chemistry? Thanks.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 7:46pm
Fate bringing you together doesn't mean for a long-term relationship - it could be a lesson to learn, like looking in the mirror and defining your life, looking at your shyness, defining what you want in a relationship.

I think this says a lot:

I feel we connect on a professional level but not really on a personal level.

And even if you are ready for more, it doesn't mean that he is....make an effort to overcome that shyness and speak your mind.


Carrie