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Am I into a Relationship
| Mon, 08-27-2007 - 10:02am |
I have never been in love before hence I need some advice from some experts.
I know a guy as a colleague for some years but we only had lunch once in a blue moon with a group of colleagues. Before he went was posted to overseas for a year, we met out for dinners twice. At that point of time, I only treated him as a normal friend so I turned out for the dinners. There after he left for his oversea trip and to my surprise he called me once he touched down and it was New Year day. He started to call me from overseas to talk; he called every weekends and more often and we talk over the phone daily now. We also keep in touch via msn or skype to chat. He started to send me cards and gifts.One fine day he sent me a love letter saying he wants to be with me. I was then in the dilema whether to accept his love. I thought of telling him let nature takes the course; eventually I follow what my heart says to accept him. We have been contacting each other for the past 8 months however sometimes I still have this mixed and confused feeling whether we are into a relationship or are we couples. Because we have never into a courtship and how could we be into a relationship. Somemore I have never hear about long distance courtship. Some of my friends told me its so kind of me to accept him as a boy friend since there is no courtship no need to talk about relationship. One day we chated via msn and I told him it was really amazing that even we are now far apart we still can get connected. I always have this thinking that a normal relationship starts from a courtship and we have never been through that. He commented that we took rocket that's why. He will be back before X-mas and we look forward to our first dinner. Initally i look forward to that too but dont know why sometimes i have this mix feelings. Am I really into a relationship?
I know a guy as a colleague for some years but we only had lunch once in a blue moon with a group of colleagues. Before he went was posted to overseas for a year, we met out for dinners twice. At that point of time, I only treated him as a normal friend so I turned out for the dinners. There after he left for his oversea trip and to my surprise he called me once he touched down and it was New Year day. He started to call me from overseas to talk; he called every weekends and more often and we talk over the phone daily now. We also keep in touch via msn or skype to chat. He started to send me cards and gifts.One fine day he sent me a love letter saying he wants to be with me. I was then in the dilema whether to accept his love. I thought of telling him let nature takes the course; eventually I follow what my heart says to accept him. We have been contacting each other for the past 8 months however sometimes I still have this mixed and confused feeling whether we are into a relationship or are we couples. Because we have never into a courtship and how could we be into a relationship. Somemore I have never hear about long distance courtship. Some of my friends told me its so kind of me to accept him as a boy friend since there is no courtship no need to talk about relationship. One day we chated via msn and I told him it was really amazing that even we are now far apart we still can get connected. I always have this thinking that a normal relationship starts from a courtship and we have never been through that. He commented that we took rocket that's why. He will be back before X-mas and we look forward to our first dinner. Initally i look forward to that too but dont know why sometimes i have this mix feelings. Am I really into a relationship?

Welcome to the board franziskagw,
If you are doubting your feelings, then you probably don't have them as strongly as they need to be to be in a relationship.