Am I right to feel embarrassed?

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Registered: 07-09-2003
Am I right to feel embarrassed?
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Sun, 07-27-2008 - 9:44am

My husband and I went to a friends house to cookout and swim the other day and while there, he drank several beers, all the while talking guy talk with the other guys, you know..the usual for most men, ..naked women, sex, all that comes with that.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-29-2008 - 2:14pm

No, you are absolutely right to feel the way you do and also to be true to yourself. A marriage is a sacred trust. If he wants to open the marriage and play sex games that's quite a step. It's not part of your agreement and you have every right to turn something like that down. His anger is odd in the face of this. Sooner or later I do hope he comes to his senses and apologizes. If he doesn't, if he still feels this is desirable and fine, it would be a good idea to get this all out on the table and perhaps even discuss it with a couple's counselor. It may be that he is developing needs and fantasies that have to be explored and worked through.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 06-23-2008
Tue, 07-29-2008 - 2:19pm

I dont think you should be embarrassed....I think HE should feel embarrassed. He owes you an apology.

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