am i ruining my relationship???
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am i ruining my relationship???
| Thu, 07-08-2004 - 4:47pm |
hi everyone, i don't know what my problem is really. i've been in love with my current bf for about 5 years now, and we've only been together for over a year. when we got together i was ecstatic. at the time though i had fallen for another guy but b/c he(my bf)was the one i wanted for so long, i tried to forget about this other guy, and it was hard. my bf and i went through some rough times b/c he knew about the other guy before we got together. my bf is so good to me. he's my best friend, the only person who understands me. he's always there for me, with no complaints. yet i don't think i can fully love him anymore. i always knew that i loved him and i still feel that i do but i can't help but feel that we're not right for each other. all of our friends think we're perfect for each other, and i though that we were, but i keep having these feeling for that other guy and it's been more than a year....just so u know, the other guy goes to school with me, and my bf goes to another college. he's transferring to my school coming fall, and now i feel really nervous and scared. i've found out through mutual friends that this other guy has feelings for me but he's also in a relationship. his gf is very jealous and he isn't allowed girl friends, so i can't really get in touch with him, and also they live together. i know i'm wasting my time by having feelings for someone who i can't possibly have but i feel like it's ruining me. a friend of mine told me that maybe it's not that i'm wanting this other guy, but that i'm wanting to experience other people (fyi, my bf is my first relationship). i just feel terrible, especially since i haven't old my bf how i'm feeling now, again, and the fact that he's coming to my school makes me feel worse. if anyone has advice, please help me..thankz

C
It could very well be that you want to date more. And you should at your age. If you feel that you 2 aren't right for each other then let him know.
Also, think about this. A man who is attracted to a girl who won't let him have female friends and is very jealous has his own issues and may not make the best boyfriend.
but i do think i should be dating more b/c i don't know anything else. who knows maybe this guy is not for me, but maybe eveyrone is right, i will try to talk to my bf and let him know ow i feel, but with him transferring to my school, he won't have a problem with that b/c although he's coming partially b/c i'm there, he's coming for himself. thanx for the advice ;)