am i settling or doing the right thing?
my boyfriend is committment-hobic. 2 months ago he got into the stage where he "needed some space" so after some struggling, we finally decided to break up. the breakup lasted two days, he decided to get back together. we hung out some more and got closer, slowly worked out our problems. for the past month we've been getting more intimate than ever, then suddenly, he's "gone" again. something about the intimacy probably triggered his need to pull away. that i can accept. men need to pull away and then come back closer... and this time he's handling it better than last time. we still talk, kiss, just don't see each other often. this has already been going on for a week and half. i am getting aggitated. there are some feelings i'd like to share with him, about how there are things im not content with this relationship - but right now he's distant and its just not a good time to talk. i am thinking about telling him in a couple days, hopefully when he's more receptive to my feelings.
my problem is that i'm so tired of being the one waiting, caring, worrying. i wish i could just not worry about it, but i love him and it's painful to not have him "there". it's hurtful when he gets distant. am i settling because im willing to wait for him to "come back" even though this might happen again? im not happy when this happens and right now i haven't even talked to him about it, i simply accept his ways with some degrees of even resentment. or am i doing the right thing knowing that's how some men are and just stick around? give him space? i don't want to come across as controling, but i don't want to compromise my feelings. basically is this normal and acceptable? should i suck it up and wait for a better tomorrow, and draw the line because by doing this he's alrady kind of driving me away.
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Jennifer
"Oh, that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evi
we had a talk last night. it was perhaps the most heart-to-heart talk ever, and there's a difference when you are looking straight into his eyes and telling him exactly how you. i told him he needed to show affection more, little things such as holding hands and making phone calls. i also told him these were the little things i need and will eventually drive me away from him if i can't have those. i just reassurance from him, and i told him it really hurts when he pulled away when i needed him. we listened with patience and in the end we made up, and reached an agreement for me to take things less seriously, and for him to pay more attention to my needs.
he called today just to say hi and said he had a movie and some pop corn for me. im really happy with him, especially like this. and yes you guys are still right, this could just be another period, and he could end up pulling away again... but after 9 months, i think i can handle another 2nd chance. im not ready to give up right now and please don't critisize me for being hopeful.
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