Am I too Insensitive?

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Am I too Insensitive?
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Wed, 02-04-2004 - 9:37am
My boyfriend and I broke up in mid-December. Our relationship has stayed the same, but without the title. We both have many things that are going on in our separate lives that need to be focused on right now. We both decided that we would get our lives straightened out before getting back together. Over this past month and half, I realize how insensitive I can be. He is one of the most sensitive guys I have ever met and I love this quality about him, but sometimes I can really hurt his feelings. I often say things without thinking and end up hurting him. We both love eachother deeply, but I am scared to move forward knowing that we may not be compatible. This is a fault I have, in which I would like to correct. The question is, can a relationship have a person who is ultra sensitive and one that is a loose cannon? I sometimes feel like a terrible person when I hurt him because I realize each day, more and more how the most littlest things can affect him. Funny thing is..we are great together, regardless of the stupidity that leaks out of my mouth. We have the deepest conversations and theres always something to laugh about. Overall, he is a wonderful guy. When do I know that its not working out? I don't know when to say 'enough is enough' that maybe we shouldn't be together anymore. I feel like there is a future if we both work towards it, but I think because there are so many feelings involved I am not thinking clearly. Please Help Me!!!
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Wed, 02-04-2004 - 10:39am

In my opinion, you have a fault that can be changed or at least lessened to where you are not always offending or hurting someones feelings.Chances are, if you are like this with him, you are like this with other people also and that isnt always a flattering character trait as you may already know.


A real easy way you can get started on trying to avoid this is just think before you speak.How would you like it if someone, especially the man that you care for, talked to you like that?It boils down to what everyones mothers taught them growing up: treat others as you would like them to treat you....


 

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Registered: 05-20-2003
Wed, 02-04-2004 - 10:47am
'The question is, can a relationship have a person who is ultra sensitive and one that is a loose cannon?'

If the two of you learn hoe to communicate better and learn how to react to other's pesonality traits and behavior.

'I don't know when to say 'enough is enough' that maybe we shouldn't be together anymore'

Even if this relationship doesn't work out, what will happen with the next guy you date? How will you treat him?