Am I too Jealous

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-21-2008
Am I too Jealous
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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 1:23pm

Hello...Yes I need some advice. My finance and I have been together for three years now and I feel somehow he is falling out of love. He says I'm too jealous well only because I know his past behaviors and mistakes. I don't really like him talking to other girls too much unless i know that she is only a friend. He also has a wondering eye and tells me
" its ok to see as long as I don't touch" I don't know what to do. I know he has cheated on his old girlfriends and I don't want that to happen to me. Should I be scared? How can I show him that I'm not that jealous even if I am.

Thanks...

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 2:09pm

" its ok to see as long as I don't touch"


If my boyfriend said this to me and had a history of cheating I would leave regardless of my jealousy issues.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 2:40pm

Welcome to the board baybiegialbz,


Besides being jealous you don't trust him(which could be for good reason). This doesn't seem to be the right relationship for either one of you. Sorry.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 3:10pm

Welcome to the board baybigialbz,


Sorry you are going through this. Whatever you do, do NOT marry him until the issues are resolved.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2007
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 10:13am

Wow! That's a little extreme, don't you think??

I mean, come on! Every man wants to look at a beautiful women, and often women will ogle nice-looking men. It's natural.

It becomes a problem when your s.o. does it in a disrespectful way, like my ex-boyfriend. He would look and then he would comment on a particular body part which he had made it plain many times I was deficient in :-( That is why he's my ex :-)

I also don't think a history of cheating is any reason to put this poor guy through the wringer for it. People can change. Who knows why he cheated? He may have been incredibly immature back then.

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Registered: 11-25-2003
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 11:40am
This is not a boyfriend.