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| Sun, 07-11-2004 - 1:27pm |
The daughter is in her mid-20's. Previously she had taken substantial money from the ex's business and ran off. She punished him by not contacting him for several years. She finally came back for support with hubby and his children in tow. My ex bought a small business to help them out and went into major debt to do so. TSince then, they have taken advance of his credit cards but he won't make them responsible in fear that she will leave again. I am not allowed to interfere because it is his money and they don't like me.
If I were to reconcile with this individual, I expect to watch and make comments in regards to the business' debt since I would accrue half of it from the time of marriage. My ex will not agree to a pre-nup. We have had 2 years of ill-will on the topic of his daughter being responsible for her actions. Other than this, it has been the best relationship that I have been in.
I have not been kind in my remarks about not trusting her and doing check-and-balances but have attempted to be objective and firm. My ex only digs in his heels. He is also concerned about holidays since they don't like me or my own adult children. Apparently we are considered the rightous high and mighty. I have offered viable solutions to holidays but he turns them down.
I have appreciated his moving out while we attempt to sort things out however, he isn't willing to compromise. I am nervous about taking on debt that I have no control or say in as well as having to content with individuals that don't like me. Yet I am willing to do so if I have several reassurances. I am totally messed up on how to resolve this.

Maybe you two are better living apart and not getting married? Do you really need to get married if you have adult children?