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|Tue, 08-14-2012 - 12:46am|
Sorry I can only respond this way with a new post, 'puter troubles. I wonder if this isn't very similar to my DH's issue. He lies. He hides things. He's deceptive in lots of ways. He learned it as a kid, to lie to stay out of trouble with his abusive father. Our therapist told me last week he does indeed sometimes do these things deliberately to sneak something past me if he really wants something. But she also says at times she believes being deceptive has become a part of his PERSONALITY by now and that means he sometimes just DOES IT without me even being a blip on the radar, and odds are he may never totally be able to stop doing it. It's done major damage and trust toward him is very dicey anymore. Maybe it's similar with your guy - maybe it depends on whether it's a part of who he IS by this time....or maybe it's a matter of seeing a therapist to work with him to stop lashing out at you. Therapists can usually cut to the chase pretty quickly and if it's determined it's a behavioral problem, with help he should be able to stop with the anger.