Angry boyfriend....

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Registered: 08-19-2011
Angry boyfriend....
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Fri, 08-19-2011 - 9:33am

I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 6 months now. Everything was great for a while. REALLY great. But, I'm starting to see a different side of him. I still love him whole heartedly, but his attitude and anger problems are starting to get to me. And I don't know how to deal with it.

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Registered: 06-12-2011
Sat, 08-20-2011 - 5:06pm

In the words of Tina Turner's song what's love got to do with it? I spent 10 years with a man who had anger issues and never knowing what would set him off.He blew up

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 08-22-2011 - 10:48am

It doesn't matter that he has bipolar disorder, whether he does or not. It is not your problem to fix. There is no justification or rationalization for treating you poorly. You want to immerse yourself in "why" because you don't want to accept that this relationship has to end. You want to look for reasons WHY it is bad so that you can fix them and have the relationship you want.

You can't. Human beings don't work that way. It doesn't matter why he is the way he is; what matters is that you are not in a relationship that can make you happy. Living with someone who has anger issues (I'm not going to call it "bipolar disorder" because he has not been diagnosed by a professional) is like being held hostage. Free yourself from this relationship and stop thinking about fixing something that you cannot fix.

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