angry, confused and falling in love
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| Thu, 10-21-2004 - 4:25pm |
So I've been seeing this guy for about 5 months, but we had discussed not to get too serious and to leave it open to see other people. He had gone out with other girls and I had seen other guys, but nothing serious. We were having a great time and really became great friends. He never slept with anyone else and neither did I until last Sunday and I told him on Thursday. We had always talked about that if someone did sleep with someone else that it's okay, but to be safe and let the other peron at least know about it. So I told him on Thursday and he was totally fine about it. I was starting to get the impression over the last few weeks that we were at a point to either how can I say Sh** or get off the pot. So I called him on Friday night and told him I needed to come see him for a few minutes and he questioned why I didn't want to stay the night because usually if we are at each others house we just stay the night. I told him yea I'll stay but I want to talk to him. When I got there, we just talked about our day and stuff, then he said we need to talk and I told him yes we do. Then we decided that we should probably back it up and just be friends because we were comming to a point where our relationship needed to take a turn in some way. I felt good about this and agreed on it. Then on Sunday he called and said that he went out with another girl on Saturday but that it didn't work out. It sounded to me that he was trying to get her in bead but when she asked about me and him and he told her about us she left. He said that he wanted to be more than friends with me but was just scared to take it to the next level (he was married before and his wife cheated on him) I asked him why he would be scared of me because he knew me and he knew that I would not do anything to hurt him. So the next day he told me that he would like to bring us to the next level.
So I thought that everything was fine and we talked on Teusday night about having kids and what would might happen in the future and stuff, then Wednesday I was going to go to his place after work and he called and said that his dad was in town and that he had to go to dinner with him, wich was fine, so today I went to lunch with him and we went to my place, usually when we go to lunch at each other's house we have a afternoon quikie, but he said that he couldn't because he had to get back to work. We were only there for like 30 minutes and had onother 30 to spend together. Then on the way back to work I asked him what he wanted to do this weekend and he said that he really wanted to spend some time with his friend on Fiday out at a bar and then going golfing with another friend on Saturday. He said that he really wanted to watch the football games on Sunday, so he won't be available all weekend I didn't say anything negative and didn't act mad, but when he droped em off he said don't be mad and I said I wasn't.
Sorry this is so long... Is he avoiding something, I trust him that he really is doing what he is doing. It's been over a week since we've slept together and I was wondering if he just didn't want our first time as a couple to be a quicky or if he realy just didn't want to do anything. On the phone and in person he's totally like a boyfriend, but he just hasn't made time for us at all.
What do you think?
Thanks
Alice
