angry husband

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2006
angry husband
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Wed, 07-18-2007 - 3:39pm
my best friend of 20 years is married to a man who is wonderful in his own way he provides and takes care of the kids.He becomes angry and begins to get hostile almost as if he has a mental disorder.When my friend tries to suggest he seek help he says there is nothing wrong with him.Sometimes he gets angry just out of the blue. He is also very abusive never to the kids but to my friend. can anyone offer any suggestions?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2007
In reply to: keekee31
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 4:32pm

really, this isn't your problem, it is hers.

is she seeking help in trying to change him?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2006
In reply to: keekee31
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 5:43pm
I do realize this is not my problem but she is like a sis to me and she is crying out for help and I visit I village quite often and I just thought there may be someone out there that had some different tactics she could try. My friend goes to church and she prays for her husband,she reads on line about different disorders she has even offered to do counseling with her husband but there again he says there is nothing wrong with him.She loves her husband and just wants some ideas on how she can help him.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: keekee31
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 5:49pm

It is impossible - absolutely IMPOSSIBLE - to help someone unless they can 1) admit to having a problem and 2) admit to wanting to change.

The only person your friend can help, at this point, is herself. I'm sorry I wish there were a better answer but you cannot tell someone how to fix themselves if they aren't willing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: keekee31
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 7:51pm

Welcome to the board keekee31,


Invite her to iVillage, especially the domestic abuse board..... his anger and abuse is not going to go away on it's own.


For her:

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2006
In reply to: keekee31
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 10:14pm
She can't make him end his anger and abuse just like you can't make her leave him. Have you offered her to stay with you the next time he hits her? Will she call the police?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: keekee31
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 12:39am
Encourage her to leave. Give her information on verbal and psychological abuse from Dr. Irene's site. Support whatever moves she makes in leaving him.

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