Answer Please

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Registered: 09-10-2007
Answer Please
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Mon, 09-10-2007 - 2:57pm
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and are sexually active. But when I have my "friend", he doesn't want to have sex and he doesn't want me to take care of him in other ways. He thinks it's a good idea that once a month he gets to watch porn and relieve himself by himself. What pisses me off is that I am ok with watching porn, but he doesn't want to watch it with me. He says it's too weird. I'm not upset that he watches porn, he is a guy after all. But he said something to me that keeps rolling around in my head that makes me so mad. He said "I like watching it every once in awhile because it gives me variety without being with another woman". I don't know what this means.I am open to new ideas in the bedroom, and he knows this because I make this very clear to him. How do I accept my boyfriend watching porn? What does he mean when he says it gives him "variety"? Please help me. Thanks.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 4:16pm

Welcome to the board caleyanne2007,


I think what he means by "variety" is that when he is watching porn he can fantasize that he is with the women on the tape. Or the variety of seeing other women naked.


Maybe a guy with answer this post.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 09-12-2007 - 3:13pm

Welcome to the board caleyanne2007,


Odd that he won't share porn with you and thinks it's 'weird'.

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Registered: 09-18-2007
Tue, 09-18-2007 - 7:50pm

Hi there caleyanne2007,


I was once in a similar situation, although mine is worse, at least for your sake i hope... but maybe in some way it will help, my at the time BF was obsessed with porno and at first he would watch it with me, then overtime started asking me to leave the room and he it progressively got worse.

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Registered: 09-19-2007
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 1:22pm

A man that would give up the "real thing" in place of porno, in my opinion is not worth

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