any ideas?

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Registered: 10-05-2004
any ideas?
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Tue, 10-19-2004 - 5:53pm
ok... you and your signifigant other had a blow out (you both where equally in the wrong) and then got back together...things couldnt be better, excpt...

you sorta bashed him/her to family in friends in the meantime for venting purposes (and in doing so, sorta exagerated and conviently only let them know about the absolute worse that happened)... how do you repair things with your friends/family so you can stop feeling like an idiot for getting back together with him/her and so that they will also like him/her again too.

any ideas anybody?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: liljewlz
Tue, 10-19-2004 - 6:04pm
It's fairly simple. If they don't like him becuase "you didn't" - then they'll like him again "once you do".

If they're determining their opinion of him on your alliance or disassociation - whichever you're doing at the time will determine their involvement, interaction, and opinion of him.

If they don't like what he did - that caused you to break up- and they hold that action against him while reminding you of it so that you can be pro-actively aware with regarding to dealing with him....then they really care about you, his actions don't comply with thier values - and there is nothing that you can do or say to "make them like him".....they don't like him because of what he did which indicates his character...it's not that they "didn't like him because he hurt you."

Erin

quickblade14@hotmail.com

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: liljewlz
Tue, 10-19-2004 - 6:06pm
You made the choice to damage his credibility & reputation in front of others. I think you now need to step up and correct any false representations that were made. You need to accept your personal accountability in this.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: liljewlz
Tue, 10-19-2004 - 6:08pm
Tell them, I was venting and over-exaggerated the situation, we have healed our relationship and I would like your continued love and support for my relationship.

And don't do it again.


Carrie