Any long term relationships failing?

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Registered: 04-23-2003
Any long term relationships failing?
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Mon, 07-23-2007 - 11:48pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for 11 years. We have two children and have been pretty happy, up until this year. Now all of a sudden I feel like I am not attracted to him any more. Nothing he does makes me happy, I don't want to have sex with him and we are on the verge of breaking up. Has this happened to anyone else? Is it a phase that happens after you have been with someone so long or can feelings just change? I am desperate for advice from anyone who has gone through something similar. Thanks
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 12:36pm

Welcome to the board allibaba79,


I am sorry you are having these problems. Is there anything that happened that made you emotionally or otherwise disconnected from him. I think the key thing is to figure out why you lost your desire to have sex with him. I suggest going to couples counseling together.


Are there any other problems in your relationship?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 07-24-2007 - 2:21pm

Welcome to the board allibaba79,


In additon the good advice you already got, I wanted to add a list of reading material to consider:


Relationship Rescue, Phil McGraw
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman
Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix