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| Fri, 05-14-2004 - 8:51pm |
i have been seeing this guy for three weeks now and i really like him. we had sex early on even though i knew we sjould have waited. i really enjoy hanging out with him and would like to be his gf. when we hang out its cool i just wish he would ask me out on a real date. our dates basically consist of going to the mountains and talking and having sex. i basically told him that i was liking him and wanted more than a friends with benefits relationship. he says he is not ready for a relationship. so i basically said that we should just stop having sex and he agreed. i kinda want to continue having sex with him cuz i know that if he is getting it from me he wont look elswhere and besides the sex is great. the problem is that i want something of a real relationship with him. he tells me he cares about me but then i always have to call. he tells me to call him everytime we hang out. i wish he would call me more instead of having me call him all the time. please any advise would be appreciated cuz i know that i am in a mess.
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mo

It breaks my heart to read things like this, that you don't KNOW you deserve better. Please get some help.
Sheri
Please don't justify having sex with him by believing this myth! Have sex with him because you are ready, because your relationship is ready for that type of intimacy, or because you enjoy being physical with him. DO NOT have sex because you think it will keep him in your life! Just because he is in a sexual relationship with you does not automatically mean that he is not involved in a sexual relationship with any one else, ESPECIALLY if you have not made any type of committment to each other concerning relationship status.
This is a lesson for all of us on what not to do for the next time. Guys always want the path of least resistance.
I actually don't know very many people who couldn't benefit from counseling, but if you are one of the elite few, that's great. But from the sound of your posts, it really sounds like you could use a tune-up in the self-esteem area as it relates to your relationships with men.
Sheri