any point?

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any point?
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Wed, 11-05-2008 - 5:37am
I've been going out with my boyfriend for about
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In reply to: charlotte0746
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 5:47am

>>should break up with him so he can figure out if he wants her so they can be a family again?<<

Is he unsure whether or not he wants to be with her? What has he said about the subject?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: charlotte0746
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 8:50am

It's not up to you to help him figure this out, it's up to him. If the two of you are "joined at the hip" and so happy together, it sounds as though he has already figured it out. He left her. Just because she now wants him back and is trying to ruin his new relationship, doesn't mean he wants her, or that she's even good for him. Of course, he must create strong boundaries and clear rules with her. He must let her know where he stands and not allow her to keep on haranguing him. Talk this over with him. Get it all out on the table. There's no reason for you to feel guilty or responsible. But it is important for it all to be clear between you and him.


Best wishes,

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In reply to: charlotte0746
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 10:57am

Welcome to the board charlotte,


Just because she wants him doesn't mean that he wants her. In my opinion, if he wanted to be with her he would be and he wouldn't be with you.


Have you talked him about her feelings for him?


If you stay together, are you okay with having to deal with her?

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In reply to: charlotte0746
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 12:08pm

IMO, you shouldn't break up with him so he can figure out if he wants her.

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In reply to: charlotte0746
Wed, 11-05-2008 - 2:12pm

Welcome to the board charlotte0746,


If she's spouting 'I love yous' what does your guy say or do?