ARE FEMALE FRIENDS OK??
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ARE FEMALE FRIENDS OK??
| Mon, 08-02-2004 - 4:18pm |
HI! PLEASE RESPOND! MY QUESTION IS IT OK FOR YOUR HUSBAND TO HAVE FEMALE FRIENDS..MY CONCERN IS THAT IF THERE IS NOTHING TO HIDE THEN BE OPEN WITH IT...WHY DOES SHE ONLY EMAIL HIM AND CALL HIM AT WORK...WHY DOESN'T SHE CALL OUR HOME?? HE CLAIMS THEY ARE ONLY FRIENDS AND THEY HAVE BEEN FRIENDS SINCE CHILD HOOD. SHE CAME TO OUR WEDDING! THE THING THAT GIVES ME DOUBT IS THAT IF IT IS TRUE THAT THEY ARE ONLY FRIENDS WHY NOT CALL OUR HOUSE???? HE THINKS I AM JUST BEING INSECURE??? HELP!!!!!!!

You say they have been friends since childhood, so of course they are going to have this friendship, they are nearly like brother and sister!
You have to understand that even if they are friends, she is not going to call YOUR house and ask to speak to YOUR husband. So they are going to e-mail, and call during work hours.
If your husband wanted something with her or if he had the feelings you suspect he has for her then, trust me , he would have married her and not you.
Everybody needs their space, and their own group of friends, when people get married its like ok, what friends do I introduce to my partner? which friends do I just keep to myself because my partner wont understand them? and which friends do I just set aside?
I am sure that you had male friends you grew up with and occasionally see them and chit chat. You have to express what you feel to your husband and that way he can explain to you about his friendship with her.
Either way I think you should just let him keep his friend, he chose you to spend the rest of his life with, and I am sure he loves, but you can't expect him to get rid of his friends because of your insecurities.
I think you need to get some information on the web about your insecurities and try to see what you can do to be more confident about YOURSELF.
Good luck and be blessed!
My boyfriend has two long-time friends, both female, they always call him at work, seldom do they call the house. BUT, I have met them both and when they email, he blind cc's me (his choice) so we can plan get together more effectively. I always have to ask if he's heard from them, but he always shares with me when he remember or I ask. One is very draining, he says, and I agree after meeting her, so he tries to rush her off the phone. The other, we've had more problems with as she had a harder time grasping personall boundaries, but things have improved greatly over time.
Carrie
He knows what my issues are!
Heather
1-SHE ONLY EMAILS HIM AT WORK
2-I NEVER HEAR ABOUT HER
3-HOW COME SHE DOESN'T CALL OUR HOUSE
4-WHY DID HE CHANGE HER NAME ON HIS BLACKBERRY
5-WHY WHEN WE WENT TO GO VISIT HER STATE? WHY DIDN'T HE CALL HER OR VISIT HER? WE WERE LIKE 10 MINUTES TOPS FROM THE AREA SHE LIVES IN.
6-EVERYTIME HE GETS UPSET WITH ME HE TELLS ME HOW MUCH HE HATES NJ AND IS GOING BACK TO WHERE HE IS FROM...
WHAT MAKES ME WONDER THAT I MAY BE WRONG IS?
SHE KNOWS HE IS MARRIED AND HAS KIDS EVEN CAME TO THE WEDDING (THEN AGAIN SOME WOMAN KNOWINGLY CHEAT WITH MARRIED MEN)
PART OF FEELS LIKE I SHOULD JUST LET IT GO...MY SISTER IN LAW FEELS IF IT'S SOMETHING IT WILL COME OUT ALL IN THE WASH LATER ON! THE SITUATION DOESN'T SIT RIGHT WITH ME FOR SOME REASON....YES IT MAY BE INSECURITES BUT I THINK HIS ACTIONS HAVE PUT THE DOUBT IN MY HEAD...HIS BEST FRIEND WAS TALKING TO ME AND HE SAID..IF THERE WAS SOMETHING GOING ON THAT HE WOULD OF KNOWN, AND I SAID YOUR HIS BEST FRIEND..LIKE U ARE REALLY GOING TO TELL ME. HE SAID WE ARE BEST FRIENDS BUT WHAT IS WRONG IS WRONG! I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO THINK BECAUSE HIS BEST FRIEND IS MARRIED AND ALTHOUGH HAS NOT CHEATED THAT I KNOW ABOUT IS ALWAYS TALKING ABOUT WHO HE IS LUSTING ABOUT AND I SAID WELL LUSTING ISN'T RIGHT.