ARGUMENT, regret, and Question

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Registered: 11-01-2003
ARGUMENT, regret, and Question
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Thu, 01-15-2004 - 8:29pm
to make a long story short, my BF of 7 months and I have been through a lot. We broke up and got back together a week ago, things were going great till today, I sensed that he doesn't want me there at times. I confront him about it and he says I'm always there and he feels like a baby.

normally I would've acknowleged his feelings and then perhaps I would not be there for a while, take some time myself, but today, all the feelings from the past exploded and i just gave it to him. i told him i don't think he's a baby and i just enjoy his accompany, and that we've only been back together for a week and it's the same old thing again, me having doubts about his feelings for me, being always so sensitive. i also told him he can't just drop me and pick me back up whenever he wants, and that he's taking me for granted. (of course here it is nicely stated but i gave it to him with some four-lettered words)

now, a couple hours later, i am feeling somewhat guilty. i am supposed to be understanding for his feelings and needs, and not explode in his face. but i couldn't pretend everything was ok at that moment. i can't always apologize. i need him to be understanding for me too.

so i plan to probably apologize tomorrow in person, better than online. there's something else bothering me though; i saw on his cell phone caller ID that his ex has been calling him and he called back (i only saw once). a friend of mine told me not to make a big deal of it unless it happens again and i agree. but should i confront him that i saw or is it really no big deal? i don't want him to get mad thinking im too jealous or controling, because he'll probably respect me more if i trust him and not bring it up.

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Registered: 01-15-2004
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 11:05pm
Here's my opion. From past experience I know guys like there space but to me, its saying your not ready for a serious relalationship. When you get married and have kids there's not alot of time you'll get to yourself to live with it. I can understand that being together every day can be alot but as long as you each have a night or 2 a week to do your own stuff then tehre shouldn't be a problem.

As for the ex i'd wait and see. I some times once in a blue talk to my ex but that's because i'm still freinds with his family and he's freinds are my freinds as well.

If it happens to be a routine then i'd push away for a while.