Attracted to husband's Cardiologist
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Attracted to husband's Cardiologist
| Fri, 04-23-2004 - 11:30pm |
I have been married and faithful to my husband for the last four years -soon will be fifth year this coming fall. I still love him, but I'm really confused and not sure why... when my husband ended up in the hospital and had to have a minor surgery done, I met his cardiologist for the first time - wham! I've begun to feel so intensely attracted to him, for the last two months. I never had that experience like that before - is it just a normal reaction? Will it go away eventually? I learned that his cardiologist has been divorced for a year; and was married for one year. Don't get me wrong; and I just want to do the right thing - I really hate the thought of hurting my husband if he learns about my attraction! :-(

Keep it mum- don't tell your husband, it will only hurt him and/or stir up feelings of insecurity & jealousy. You don't want your husband to stop seeing his doctor because he's uncomfortable- especially if he needs that doc. The feelings will pass.
Remember, passion is temporary, love, sometimes dulls, but is eternal.
Good Luck!!
Welsh_Lily
Sydnie
its "normal" to feel "physically attracted" to other people, you are married - not dead! in this case, i would bet, that you are feeling other feelings as well - gratitude, this doctor is your "hero", you probably feel, deep down, that he saved your husband's life, that he "understands" how you feel, how scared you were, he was "there" for you ---- all totally normal and undestandable feelings. also - you may have been scared and/or angry at your husband (again, normal feelings) and its easier to deal with this 'doctor issue' than to think about losing him. maybe your husband was scared and took it out on you?
focus on your relationship with your husband right now. think of this as having a crush on leonardo di caprio - not likely to go any further, but fun to think about it.
Carrie
Speaking of the cardiologist's private life, I didn't want or even think about "digging" into his life, because I don't believe in getting involved in people's lives. What happened when I learned that he is divorced was that HE asked me how long I was married and I said that it'd be 5 years this coming fall. He said good; and then suddenly said that he was married for one year and then now one year being divorced. I said "ouch!". I was thinking to myself, how painful that must be! He said "yeah", with a somber look. That was the end of that topic; and we then turned to see my husband.
So, right now, my husband is doing fine at the moment; and still has to go for the follow-up every few months with this cardiologist. Hopefully, things will look brighter for all of us! :-D