awkward hygiene/personal care question
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awkward hygiene/personal care question
| Mon, 05-19-2008 - 7:58pm |
I'm dating a guy whom i care about a lot, but there are some "issues" I have with his hygiene and i don't know how to approach him about it He's a very giving man and it seems that he's so busy caring for everyone else that he neglects himself. I just don't know that I can move forward in the relationship without resolving these issues. (It's things like oral hygiene, showering daily - we have a very active sex life, etc.) It's becoming a bigger and bigger distraction for me and I've tried to talk with him about it, but perhaps I was too indirect?

If he is still having sex then he cant be too depressed...but just enough to start not caring.
Be clear, and direct with him, though gentle. Preface what you have to say by telling him how much you care about him and also ackowledge some other positive things about them. Then mention this issue of hygiene and how much it is a problem for you. When you communicate in the right way and the other doesn't feel attacked or denigrated, they can then hear you and hopefully make the changes you need.
Best wishes,
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