Back Away or Keep Trying?

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Back Away or Keep Trying?
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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 4:36pm

Ok, so is it true that if you are seeing or dating a man and you are the one that usually initiates, calling, seeing, etc. and you back away that they will pull forward if they are interested? or if you keep up the contact and initiating they respond better? The new relationship the feelings are more for one then the other, I am told if you pull away they (the one that has less feelings)

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 5:06pm

Welcome to the board babygurl22222,


First I think it is important not to play games in a relationship. If you want to make away because you are unsure if his feelings that is fine. If he is truly interested he will call you, text, etc. If he isn't than more thank likely he will not contact you.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 6:22pm

Welcome to the board babygurl22222,


It may be true to some degree.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 7:40pm

There's a certain amount of chasing that's good and then it's enough. For the relationship to work it needs to be mutual. Both parties have to want to be together and have to be able to reach out to one another. Otherwise there's a power imbalance, with one person always running after the other. That's not fair or healthy for both parties. So, if you are always the one running after the other, back off a bit, let it be more mutual. If the person cares for you and wants the relationship, they will reach out as well. If they do not, then they are not the right one and you should let them go.


Best wishes,