Bad Boys

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Registered: 10-29-2007
Bad Boys
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Mon, 10-29-2007 - 1:34am

I need some input on my current guy situation. I Guess he's what you'd calla bad boy lol.

We met back in July at the bar. I thought he was so hot, so I sent him a drink. Then a little later, he returned the favor. The bar tender kept telling me how he was shy and stuff. I was on cruthces at the time so I didn't really want to hobble overto the other side of the bar and look like an idiot. So my friend motioned for him to come over. ANd then he did and we talked. I got really wasted, haha. He ended up taking me home and we fooled around, had sex, bla bla... I figured it was just a one night stand. But then he texted me the next day and said sorry for not calling I was fishing all day but I'll give you a call tomrrow. And he did... then we talked for a while and he said how he didn't like talking on the phone or texting... because hes on the phone all day at work.

So we made plans to do something that weekend. Then when I texted him the day we were going to do something he said he got called into work and was sorry. So I just said screw it and left it at that. Then for the next month or 2... he would always call me on Saturday nights at like 2 or 3 in the morning.. probably when he was drunk haha. aI never answered obviously. Then a few times he texted me and asked what I was doing and I lied and said i was at work because I didn't really want to see him.

Then in the beg of Sept I texted hima nd told him I was moving and gettnig my own apt and that he should come visit me. He said he would and then told me to call him.. and I Did about 1 hour later (tryin to play hard 2 get haha). And he wanted me to come out.. it was like 11 at night. He said he was leaving the bar. I didn't really feel like it so I made up some excuse. And he was like alright well call me tomorrow if you want to do something.. then I never called.
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theres more I Just didn't want to jam it all into one post and make it ridiculously long

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Registered: 10-29-2007
In reply to: shopaholik85
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 1:43am


And then I didn't talk to him for a few weeks... and randomly he texted me during the day (obviously wasn't drinking, he was at work).. and said so when can I see you again? And I said well i dunno I have to work this weekend. So then the next weekend I was out with my friends and I decided to call him at 11:30 at night and tell him to come out. So then he did come out.. even tho he lived 30 min away. And we drank a few beers, then I ended up going home with him instead of my friend just because it was easier. Keep in mind that I live about 20 min from him so its a little bit out of his way for him to be taking me home. And the whole way home he held my hand.. i was SHOCKED haha.

And then when we got to my house, we made out in his car for a really long time. There were some "roaming hands" so to speak. And at one point he reached for my pants to unbutton them and I said "do you have a condom' and he said "no." Then he said that he did at his house and he would take me there to sleep and then bring me home in the morningf. But I didn't really think it was a good idea so we didn't do that.

I kinda figured this would be it and he wouldn't talk to me again. But then on Tuesday he called me ... but I didn't answetr. Then he texted me and said I was goin to come see you. But I was cleaning my new apt and stuff and wasn't really into it. Then he called 2 days later and I didn't answer but I called him back later on and we talked and stuff.

Then I ended up texting him the next day.. just being stupid and I said so are you coming over tomorrow and he said yah. I totally didn't think he would. But then he called the next day to get directions to my apt and he did show up. We hung out and watched movies.. cuddled and made out a lot.. thats it.

Then the next day I texted him and siad thanks for coming over.. i had fun and he said yah me too. And then a few days later I was out at the bar where I met him at the first time we hooked pu and i texted him and told him to come but he didnt respond. Then I texted him later on in the week and said whts up and he said '' drinkin at the bar." then I said so when are we going to hang out again and he never responded.

So at this point I was pretty much over it.. I figured whatever.. his loss. Then 2 weeks later (last weekend) i saw him at the bar. Only problem was that I was with this new guy that I am dating so I didn't talk to him at first. Then the guy I was dating left and i said to the old guy.. thanks for saying hi! And he said that I didn't say hi to him either. And he was talkign to a girl and he was like I know her - as if i would get jealous or something.

To make a long story short... when he was leaving he smakced my butt, and then I said to him " are you coming home with me?" And he said ... " you come to my house." It was def easier to go to his house since he lived 5 min away and I live 30 min away. So I did that and went to his house and stayed there. And he was just so sweet.. we messed arounda little bit, nothing to big. And thenI said okay time to go to sleep and he was like you're going to make me go to bed with a hard on thats so mean. And I'm like yah well i dont wnat to have s*x when I'm drunk and then not remember. And he was like okay then. So we just cuddled and went to sleep. Then in the morning we woke up and cuddled some more.

Ahhh Idunno what to do! He's sucha bad boy.. eh flirts with so many girls... he even flirted with my friend a little bit. But he's so hot I Just can't resist him. ANd I love how he likes to cuddle and stuff because not a lot of guys like to do that. Its weird to me that we still talk because I figuerd he was going to be just a one night stand. I don't want to talk to him about feelings and stuff because I know that would scare him away.

Oh and I forgot to mention that he told me about his crazy ex girlfriends that tried to run him over with a car numerous times, and then broke his windshield in his car, and scratched his seats in his car. '

Its just so hard because when I'm around him I LIke him more and more but I just don't know how he feels about me. It sems like when I avoid him and don't call or text him fora while then he starts coming around again.

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Registered: 07-16-2007
In reply to: shopaholik85
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 1:44am

He's not a bad boy, he's just booty call material. Just let it go. It's a waste of your precious youth!!

*Edited after reading second post.

Edited 10/29/2007 1:52 am ET by bella_valentina




Edited 10/29/2007 1:52 am ET by bella_valentina
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Registered: 10-29-2007
In reply to: shopaholik85
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 1:56am

Thanks for your input!

At first I think I only wanted a booty call. But now I want something more. I love being around him, hes hilarious, and is very touchy-feely. He likes to cuddle which is something not too many of the guys I've dated have liked to do.

Is there any way to change his thinking, maybe make him realize what he's missing? And have him think of me as relationship material rather than just a booty call? We have only had sex one time though, and both of us were really drunk. The other 3 times we've hung out.. we've barely done more than kissed.

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Registered: 01-24-2007
In reply to: shopaholik85
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 7:27am

You can't make him change his thinking.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: shopaholik85
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 12:26pm

Welcome to the board shopaholik85,


If you really want a relationship with him, the two of you need to stop playing games. Sometimes you don't answer on purpose, then you text, then you make up some excuse why you can't go out, etc.


Try going on a real date if you want to make something more of this.


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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: shopaholik85
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 4:13pm

Welcome to the board shopaholik85,


Well, I've read longer posts.....


From what you wrote you really aren't interested in this guy, so why bother?