bad new years-help get my man back
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bad new years-help get my man back
| Thu, 01-01-2004 - 10:25pm |
Hey ya'll. Obviously this is something about new years last night. I've been trying to get this guy, Casey, to like me for 6 months now. We had something started, then this other girl butted in and they went out. He dumped her last night so he could be w/ me and i put my ass on the line by lying to my parents about where i was going so i could spend my new years w/ him. i met his paretnts and everything and he got me earrings for christmas. Everything was working perfectly. we went party hopping and he was tellin everyone i was his girlfriend. we were cuddling and kissing and we ended up having sex in his car. it really meant something to me and i'm starting to fall in love w/ him. I've been hurt so many times by guys that i've put up a wall around my heart and i started to trust him and care for him other than just a friend and he broke down that wall and then shattered my heart. We came back to my best friends house to crash and he wouldn't sit next to me or anything. he layed on the floor. my friends brother and my old flame, needed to talk to me so i leaned down so he could tell me in my ear. Casey thought i was makin out w/ him. of course the guy i was talkin to was drunk off of everclear and was saying things like "i love you, i really care for you, i'm sorry for hurting u" etc...i thought it was a bunch of BS and sat back down. then another guy who was stoned told casey i was all over him and i didn't even touch him. So casey got pissed and told me he broke up w/ his g/f for the wrong reasons and it was over and i was bawling. he left. then my friends brother came in to calm me down and i was cryin for a long time. then he took me in the garage for some reason and was tryin to kiss me and i wouldn't kiss him back. i passed out because i drank half a bottle of everclear and he was still tryin to kiss me. i have cuts and bruises from falling. Then this morning me and casey got into a big fight and i told him the truth and he won't believe me. He thinks me and my friends brother had sex. And actually i ran into the bathroom and fell asleep on the floor.Casey was also drunk and high so his judgement was probably off. He told me he gave me a chance and i blew it and he is really bad about assuming things. i'm heartbroken and i don't know how to get him back. i don't want to call him and make myself seem desperate. What can i do to get his trust back??? plz help!

Reading material to consider:
The Awakening from Caterpillar to Butterfly Handbook for Life, Love & Dating, by Shelia A Dennis
Life Strategies for Teens, by Jay McGraw
Teen Esteem: A Self-Direction Manual for Young Adults by Pat Palmer
Carrie
Perhaps Casey was just looking to make something out of nothing so he could pick a fight with you, but maybe you were acting a little too cozy with your ex. You were probably subconsciously trying to make Casey jealous since he was ignoring you when you got to your friend's house.
As for going out to the garage with the other guy when you were so drunk you passed out, WHAT were you thinking? ANYTHING could have happened, and you'd not even know it.
Oftentimes when we are young, we think that by having sex with someone, that will "cement" the relationship...It often doesn't. Guys just think you're easy and will lie and use you as much as they want, until they get tired of you and want something else. What's done is done, of course, but you shouldn't have been so quick to let that all happen in the car. Don't you want him to respect you?
More important than getting Casey back is getting your self-esteem back. I'm sorry if I sound judgemental, but you are losing in all of this. You are young and need to take this New Year and start a whole new way of living. Meet someone and really get to know him first. Establish a real friendship and a caring relationship before jumping into having sex with someone. You'll be able to respect yourself and you will eventually find the love of your life!
Good luck...