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Registered: 10-07-2008
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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 8:29pm
my girlfriend and I went on our first vacation together about a month ago.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: mikkeller
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 9:50pm

Welcome to the board mikkeller,


Sounds like there is no 'us' in what you describe.


Who said the part in quotes - "Like you said on the phone that night, I really do think you liked the "idea of me" rather than me specifically. No hard feelings, but I was really annoyed with a lot of things about our trip to Canada."

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Registered: 10-07-2008
In reply to: mikkeller
Tue, 10-07-2008 - 9:57pm
She said the quotes.
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Registered: 03-06-2008
In reply to: mikkeller
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 7:10am

"giving it another try later down the road"

Why? Probably better to concentrate on finding someone who actually wants to be with you, don'tcha think?

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: mikkeller
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 10:28am

Welcome to the board mikkeller,


It sounds like she really isn't interested in getting back together. I think your time would be best spent looking for someone would is interested in "you" and not the idea of you.


Best of luck.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mikkeller
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 11:31am

There is no way I can know what went on between the two of you because you don't know. You never asked. You never communicated with each other and discussed it. It sounds as though you thought many things, but didn't check to see if they were so. The basis of all relationships is "communication". The best thing to have done on the trip was to have stopped and asked her what was going on? When you both didn't communicate for 2 weeks after the trip, that was another sign that there was a real drifting apart. If you wanted the relationship to work and want any future relationship to work you must be willing to talk about your feelings and thoughts with one another and find out what's happening and what is needed step by step.


All good wishes,