I know you love her but I do not think this is something you can change. She just has too much baggage and its not fair to you. She needs to get professional help but she has got to want it.
I am sorry to say that I don't think anything changing in your relationship unless your girlfriend is willing to seek some help for all the abuse she has endured all her life. She hasn't really dealt with everything that has happened to her and until she does she will not be able to have a truly healthy relationship.
I think all you can do at this point is encourage her to seek some counseling.
Thanks for the update. I think it is great that you are going to counseling together. However, I still think she would greatly benefit from individual counseling as well.
Welcome to the board crow6279,
::In trying to address all this with her, I found out she was abused as a child, again as a teenager, and also as an adult.
Welcome to the board crow6279,
I am sorry to say that I don't think anything changing in your relationship unless your girlfriend is willing to seek some help for all the abuse she has endured all her life. She hasn't really dealt with everything that has happened to her and until she does she will not be able to have a truly healthy relationship.
I think all you can do at this point is encourage her to seek some counseling.
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The advice on what to do for her is right on - encourage her to go for counseling.
Crow6279 - as a fellow 50 year old man,
Your post is very sad.
I know you fell for this woman on the spot.
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