Bedroom issues

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Registered: 01-04-2008
Bedroom issues
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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 6:43pm
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-25-2008
In reply to: crow6279
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 7:01pm
I know you love her but I do not think this is something you can change. She just has too much baggage and its not fair to you. She needs to get professional help but she has got to want it.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: crow6279
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 9:32pm

Welcome to the board crow6279,


::In trying to address all this with her, I found out she was abused as a child, again as a teenager, and also as an adult.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: crow6279
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 11:58am

Welcome to the board crow6279,


I am sorry to say that I don't think anything changing in your relationship unless your girlfriend is willing to seek some help for all the abuse she has endured all her life. She hasn't really dealt with everything that has happened to her and until she does she will not be able to have a truly healthy relationship.


I think all you can do at this point is encourage her to seek some counseling.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2004
In reply to: crow6279
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 10:55am

The advice on what to do for her is right on - encourage her to go for counseling.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2008
In reply to: crow6279
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 12:33am

Crow6279 - as a fellow 50 year old man,

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
In reply to: crow6279
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 2:19pm

Your post is very sad.


I know you fell for this woman on the spot.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2008
In reply to: crow6279
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 3:51pm

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
In reply to: crow6279
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 5:02pm
Thanks for the update. I think it is great that you are going to counseling together. However, I still think she would greatly benefit from individual counseling as well.
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Registered: 01-04-2008
In reply to: crow6279
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 9:53am