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Bedtime help
| Fri, 08-20-2004 - 4:44pm |
Hi everyone. I guess this is my "poll the audience" question. I am very seriously dating the most wonderful woman in the world. Now the problem she has basically raised her 2 boys herself one 14 one 5. They are both good kids but the problem is bedtime. They are night owls. They basically go to bed whenever they feel like "if" they feel like it. It is not uncommon to not go to bed until 5 or 6 am. She is trying to get them back on a schedule for school but the oldest still isn’t in bed until 11 or so and the youngest one goes to sleep whenever, he has NEVER had a bedtime and sleeps with her. I have told her that it is not good for her much less the kids to stay up until 1 or 2 on a school and work night but she just won’t put her foot down. I have for almost a year trying to get her to take toe young one to the Dr. and see what he can do. I guess besides the obvious health issues and the fact that I have told I can’t keep those hours when (if) we ever decide to marry. I do love this woman more than anything in the world but this is a very big issue for me. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Talk to her - 'Hey would you go with me to a parenting class to help me understand your point of view, since I don't have kids?' If she says yes, go immediately. If she says no, I don't see much hope for the relaitonship as she's not in a place to hear the truth of your situation.
Kids thrive under good boundaries (I'm not saying strict in your face boundaries) but lines that let everyone know whose the boss in the house and makes routines easier.
Carrie