being dumped?

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Registered: 02-23-2004
being dumped?
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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 6:25pm
Would a guy who has been dating a girl for about 3-1/2 months dump her by not contacting her at all? Avoid calling her and not calling her back. Someone told me that this kind of stuff does happen. Is it true?

Things seem to be okay. He has never complained about us. He tells me that he always enjoys my company. Though he is a little hard to read because he is quiet and a bit shy. He has told me he likes me about three weeks ago. But I guess feelings can change. By the way, we have not had sex. Just kissing.

Even though exclusivity has never been mentioned between us, shouldn't he at least tell her why he's dumping her if they have been dating her for 3-1/2 months? We see each other at least one or two days week for the past four months. I haven't spoken to or seen my guy in a week. I called him this past Wednesday but he has not returned my call. This is not normal behavior from him. He normally calls back at least the following day. I am really worried.

Any insights would be much appreciated.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: trustlove8
Fri, 10-01-2004 - 6:52pm
I had a guy do this to me. We had been friends for 25 years (family friends) and then dated for about 4.5 months. I thought he would NEVER do something like that to me since we had known eachother for sooo long and been friends since we were 4 and 5 years old. He ended up not calling for for THREE weeks for seemingly NO reason. I ended up getting in touch with him FINALLY and he told me that he didn't want a relationship (after we had already discussed exclusivity) and that he just "wanted to have fun". That was that. Poof, friendship gone after 25 years. I'm shaking my head as I write this. The only thing I can figure out is that he was never really a good *friend* and that he was a great big wimp and figured I'd get the message by just never calling me again. Not sure what he was planning to do at the next family/family friend function but....who can figure them out??