being happy again

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Registered: 12-04-2007
being happy again
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Tue, 12-04-2007 - 7:02pm

Hi,


Im a single mom of two little girls aged four and five.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 7:32pm

It certainly sounds as though you've been through a great deal in your young years. I can imagine how hard it must be raising your girls alone and losing their father that way. You sound strong, brave and as though you have an enormous amount to offer any man. It also sounds as though there is still quite a bit of upset regarding dating - and that is understandable. It's not only you, it's your daughters who are involved. And then you had that bad experience.


I strongly advise you to find yourself a wonderful, well trained, supportive therapist who you can work with face to face. It will help center you, help you work out your sorrow at losing your husband, and get a better feel for what it is you truly want in life. It will help you get clear about the right person for you - so you can sort out whether or not you are interested in someone because they care for you, or because you are truly attracted and happy with them. Right now it seems you are confused and that is not the best time or way to start a new relationship. First get clear with yourself, become centered, learn how to protect yourself in a relationship and how to value yourself highly. Then you won't feel so uneasy about dating someone new.


You deserve to have real happiness in your life. You do not have to settle for something just because it's there. You deserve to have choices and to be able to start again with someone you feel really happy with and who is fully worthy of you. Go get some help first and you will be able to answer your own questions.


All my very best wishes,

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 9:25pm

Welcome to the board mom_tommy,


If you have doubts, the answer is no. You can't follow your family or friends advice, if

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Registered: 12-02-2007
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 11:48pm
Hi, i'm new to this place. I'm still really young, 19 in fact and i know its sumtimes hard to listen to a younger person about

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