Being taken for granted

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Registered: 04-22-2003
Being taken for granted
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 7:47am
I have been seeing a guy for about eight months now, and everything is still going well. Thing is, I feel he is beginning to take me for granted, as he doesn't go the extra mile like he used to. I am still the same, I still get nervous when I'm going to meet him and still go out of my way to please him. I've tried making him jealous to keep him on his toes but he's not a jealous person. He used to take me out more often, but now most time is spent at his watching movies, he never really comes over to mine. I want things to be exciting for us again, and not so routine. What can I do to shake things up a bit before we both get bored?

holly x x

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Registered: 05-06-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 12:35pm
Playing games and trying to make him jealous is not the answer. Communication is. Have you sat down and told him out you feel? Don't blame him, i.e. don't say, You don't make me feel special. Concentrate on telling him how you feel and what you need out of the relationship. See how that goes.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 8:45pm

Unfortunatley, we can tend to get stuck in a rut, where we just go thru the phases and let everything become habitual. We foget that we need to prioritze our relationships...make them a priority. Im not saying that he doent love you, in fact, i think its the opposite.


If you have never expressed your concern, you need to...no one is a mind reader. Be prepared with idea that you can both do as a couple to rekindle those feelings and keep everything healthy.