BEST FRIEND STABBED ME IN BACK PLS HELP
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BEST FRIEND STABBED ME IN BACK PLS HELP
| Mon, 05-28-2007 - 7:32pm |
Hello, someone who I thought was one of my best friends lied and stabbed me in the back. We work together she was working on huge account. The account fell through she was devastated and very worried about it costing her job. that was 2 years ago. Fast forward to now.The other company involved has sued for the account not going through. The manager my "friend" was working with at our company could not remember all the details but informed me that my "friend" helped her remember it was me working on the account. My "friend" has shredded all documents all the proof that she was involved. I wasnt EVER involved in this meeting/account. I am devastated that my "friend" would try to put me in a law suit situation when she has all the proof to clear our manager, our company, herself. I am so hurt. I tried several times to bring up issue but she says she doesnt know what I am talking about. I am afraid to push issue because she has the manager convinced it was me. You hear about people being worngly put in prison all the time. {I dont think it would get to that} but if it was so bad that I would have to go to prison because of her lies it hurts so very deeply that she would let that happen. I loved her like a sister. I cant sleep. I am just so hurt. PLEASE HELP

Just curious - if your friend doesn't know what you're talking about, how do you know she shredded all evidence?
One other thought (aside from getting an attorney, which you should do, IMO), is there any chance that your friend really doesn't know and that the manager is lying?
I am pretty sure the manager just doesnt remember...she could be lying who knows...I think she just doesnt remember. I was very upset that she could be so flip over something that could cost her alot and be so wrong about the people involved but.... She has been through death of both parents in last two years so I know shes had alot on her. She said "my friend" helped her remember it was me on the account. I am just really deeply hurt. I want to sit "my friend" down and ask her why she would even entertain doing such a thing to me.
I'm sorry your friend did this to you.
My guess, and I'm not *excusing* her behavior, is that she's trying to protect herself and is afraid of getting in trouble for this. Perhaps the manager said "I know it was either you or leeameee that worked on this" and the friend said "well, it wasn't me" or something of that nature.
NOW, she has to lie to you to cover THAT lie, or she'll be in trouble with YOU too. This is one of the reasons (aside from it just being plain wrong) that lying is bad. They snowball.
I would sit her down, maybe over drinks or something, and calmly discuss this with her. Let her know that you'd like to salvage the friendship (if this IS, in fact what you'd like to do), and that you can't do that when you know she's lying.
You really should talk to a lawyer since it sounds you could become a scapegoat here. The other company, maybe someone there remembers who they dealt with? You mention jail, which really means all bets are off if this is a posibility. Does your friend realize this? It seems if she passes the blame to you, you could at the very least loose your job.
You have to talk to the manager and base the conversation on facts not just that you feel betrayed. If your friend realizes the seriousness of this (that you could loose your job, jail, etc.) and still turns on you like this, it might not be wise to talk to her about it again. She might go back to talk to the manager and convinve her further or she might destroy more evidence. Does your manager know the files are missing? Talk to a lawyer, document everything that happened with the dates, etc. Gather all the evidence you can.
Friendship is based on trust and if she can't come clean and realize she is putting you in jeopardy you have to protect yourself and make sure the truth comes out. If you talk to a lawyer, they can give you some better advice about how to proceed carefully.