best way to let down a date?

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Registered: 06-07-2004
best way to let down a date?
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 5:55am
Just out of curriocity. I had a talk with my best friend today and she has been on two blind dates this week. The guys absolutely adored her and were bending over backwards to win her attention (she is lovely my friend) but she doasn't find them even remotely attractive or interesting for that matter. What is the best way to let a date (which was otherwise perfect) down without hurting anyone's feelings? She is really fretting about it and when she received a text from contestant number one she replied in a polite but neutral way. She dreads the follow up calls/textx, whetever.

So what is the best way

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 6:01am
You have to be quick and honest and to the point.

If it is in regards to online dating, I would be tempted to send an email saying something to the effect, "I enjoyed meeting you and thank you for a nice evening. I do not feel we are a match but I do wish you all the best for finding your someone special."

After she has gone on a lot of blind dates she will find out that this is the easiest way on everyone.

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Registered: 05-05-2004
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 11:49am
The best way is to be honest and grown about it. It's mean to string someone along just because you can't find the guts to say you're not interested. How about saying, "I really enjoyed getting to know you but I'm not ready to commit to anything right now. I'm currently dating and exploring my options. But thank you for the lovely evening." Men would much rather hear you're not interested up front than months down the road after springing for dinner dates that you never really wanted to go on in the first place.
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Registered: 06-07-2004
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 1:36pm
I totally agree that she should not string those men along. This is not the issue. The reason I asked the question is because my friend is really really shy and she will probably need a lot of coaching before she can actually utter these words. I will get her to read your replies though and rehearse with her!

Thanks for the answers

Sadie