BF and ex and Son

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Registered: 06-29-2004
BF and ex and Son
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 2:50pm
I have been dating this guy for a short while. He is legally separated and he has a 2 half year old son. Him and his ex keep it civil for the sake of the son. Tonight we had made plans to go to dinner but he just told me that one of his dogs has to be put to be put to sleep. This is his ex-wife's dog that still lives with him. She is coming over around 3:00 with their son and she is going to clean the dog, feed him and then my BF will bring him to get put down. BF told me that his ex was crying because of the dog. Supposedly afterwards, BF said he is going to take son for ice cream because since the ex was crying it might make son feel upset..so to console son he will get icecream.



Why do I feel uncomfortable about him and her and son spending this time together????
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 11:18am
"Why do I feel uncomfortable about him and her and son spending this time together????"

Because just like you said, you have only been dating this guy for a short while... the guy is not even divorced yet? Take your time and try to maintain a little detachment here until that situation is resolved. If you can't deal with his family ties now, it's only going to get worse later - if they are sharing custody, this woman will be a part of his life one way or another indefinitely. Think about whether you can really deal with that and if not, cut yourself loose now before you all get too attached and put his kid through it too.