BF and super fun party friend

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Registered: 09-20-2007
BF and super fun party friend
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Thu, 09-20-2007 - 11:46am

I've been with my BF for 4 months. Before we met, he was hanging out with his 'super fun' friend. She is married, but in a weird open marriage where she and her spouse spend lots of time apart. When my BF was single, the

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 12:33pm

The fact that she's possessive and terriorial with him is not a good sign. Worse he really likes her attention.





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Registered: 09-20-2007
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 1:55pm
i wish i could. i wonder what her husband thinks of her shenanigans.
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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 1:56pm
he loves female attention.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 2:07pm
Oh, boy. That is not an easy path you are on.




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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 2:19pm

Tell him no. He's not single and also not in an open ended relationship as she is. You have right to feel uneasy about this relationship, especially as it's infringing upon your time together. Sit down with him and set boundaries and limits here. You may not feel able (at this point) to ask him to cut this out entirely, but you can certainly request limits and boundaries on the time they spend together. Let him know that it makes you uneasy and also that it's affecting the amount of time you're spending together. She may act as though she's single, or be in an open relationship, but remind him that he's not. Nor is the relationship open.


If he is not willing to go along with your requests, you need to look and see why not...if he can be considerate enough of your feelings and also treat your relationship with the respect you ask of him. If he cannot, perhaps you need to think carefully about the kind of partner and relationship you truly want and see if he is the right one for you.


Best wishes,

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